The Truth About 'Running' and 'Waiting' in Twin Flame Relationships

For some time now, I have seen a lot of references referring to ones twin as not being 'ready' or being a 'runner,' and the person making the statement saying they are 'waiting' for their twin so they can reunite.

The problem with this line of thinking is that it is coming 100% from the Ego and it leads us AWAY from reunion rather than TOWARD it.

There is no 'waiting' or 'running' when it comes to twin reunion.  If ONE twin is not ready, then BOTH twins are not ready.  If ONE twin is 'running,' then BOTH are 'running' in their own way.  When ONE twin has inner work to do, BOTH twins have inner work to do.

This is the way it works.  No exceptions, no shortcuts, no 'easy way out.'  Your work is for you and you alone to complete, and you must own it, TRULY, or it will own you by triggering ego tangents blaming the other for times of separation which only result in pushing our twins further away.

To say that you are 'waiting for' or 'chasing' your twin implies that you believe you have no work to do and are more 'evolved' or 'advanced' than they are and that simply is not true.  Such a statement indicates misunderstanding of the true energetic dynamics between twins and/or avoidance of taking personal responsibility for the work YOU must do, placing it all squarely on your twin which is unbalanced and causes repulsion between twins, not attraction.

You are in essence creating your own self-fulfilling prophecy of 'waiting' or 'chasing' by thinking and doing this.  I have seen this happen over and over and over again with twins and the outcome is always the same.

The twin who insists they are 'ready' and 'waiting' for their beloved to 'catch up' ends up frustrated beyond belief as time goes by and it appears they are no closer to reuniting physically than they were to begin with.  They blame their twin for this, ie. their twin is not doing what they 'should be' doing and this is the reason why they have failed to reunite.  They anguish over this, wondering why their twin just can't 'get it'...when all along, THEY are the one who has not been 'getting it.'

Our twins are the most precise Cosmic mirror that we will ever know.  All of our relationships show us SOMEthing, but our twins show us EVERYTHING about ourselves, good and bad.  Everything that needs attention, everything that needs healing, everything that needs released and transmuted.  It's up to each of us to understand that, REALLY understand it, and see our relationships with our twins as they truly are.  It is not about romantic union.  Don't get me wrong...it is, but it is SO MUCH MORE, and the challenge many people face is that they get caught up on the 'romance' aspect and the 'want' of a physical relationship with their twin and throw everything that they THEMSELVES must to do to get to that 'romantic' place out the window. 

But it just doesn't work that way, as evidenced by the droves of twins who approach their twins in terms of a 3D relationship only to discover that...well...it DOESN'T WORK!

What's unfortunate is the number of twins who just 'give up' when what they have been believing and trying doesn't work.  Again, they place the blame on their twin, completely disregarding the role they have played in their separation.  They view the separation as 'bad' and they mistakenly feel as if they must 'save themselves' for their twin as part of the 'waiting game' and so they create their own misery in the form of self-imposed restrictions.

These are all false 3D ways of thinking.  Separation does not equal WAITING.  Separation equals focus on PERSONAL GROWTH and JOY.  If that means being in relationship with another, then so be it.  Many times, that is exactly what you are meant to do!  Trust me...the twin connection does not diminish if you and/or they are with another, neither is it a 'betrayal' of any sort. 

Everything that you do for YOU influences your twin, including loving another and completing lessons, soul contracts, and karma that we have with others.  All of the efforts of your inner work, personal growth, and joy are felt by your twin (consciously or not) through the connection you share and it helps them to work through THEIR issues, drawing the two of you ever closer.  The beauty of it is that there is no need for control, you don't have to interefere in their lives by doing anything *to* or *for* them to make this happen, it happens naturally as you place the focus on YOU and YOUR growth and joy in the NOW.  

The flip side of that dynamic is focusing on misery, restriction, 'waiting,' 'chasing,' etc. sends all of that to our twins, creating further (and unnecessary) internal chaos for them and causing them to be repelled even further.  Ask yourself...is that what you REALLY want to do?

Meeting ones twin is not an 'end all' as many people think.  It is a catalyst for BOTH twins, setting them on their respective paths of enlightenment and ascension, and it is extremely rare for twins to be ready to reunite in the physical right away.  Is it possible for that to happen?  Sure...but that means both parties have already done the inner work necessary to reunite on their own, and most often, we need that initial 'meeting' and the subsequent dance of union/separation to wake us up and show us our 'shadow' in order to to become self-aware enough to tackle the inner work in the first place.  What each twin chooses to do once they have been set on their path is up to them, and it can take a while for both to 'get' all of the above.

There is no right or wrong choice; you can choose to believe that you are 'ready' and they are not, or that they are 'running' and you are 'chasing,' however, what happens as a result of that choice is your responsibility, and yours alone.  So, if you find yourself 'waiting' for your twin for a very long time and feeling frustrated by what they are doing or not doing in any way, know that it is YOUR beliefs and choices which led to that extended 'wait' and frustration, and that the only way to 'fix' it is by releasing those very same restrictive beliefs and choices that YOU have been holding on to.  

It's ok...let them go...they served a purpose at one time, but you don't need them any more...LET THEM GO and allow yourself to be immersed fully in the experience and purpose of your twin connection.

Really...this is what you are 'supposed' to be doing...which is why your twin is showing it to you via the 'mirror' that they are...so every time you say your twin is not 'ready' or is 'running,' please know that what you are really saying is, "I am not ready, I myself am running, but I am unaware of this...or perhaps I am aware of it, but I am unable to accept and face it just yet, so I'm projecting it onto my twin."

If you're 'waiting' or 'running'...you are only 'waiting' and 'running' from yourself...some food for thought from someone who has been there, done that, and made the choice to step off that particuar 'wheel of misery' and get down to business on their own inner work.  I won't say it's been easy, but it's been a heck of a lot easier than sitting around for years on end pining away for my twin and being angry with him due to my own distorted sense of self-awareness.

© Lady Jennith Lynn